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My Birthday Gift

Today is my birthday.

As I do most Sunday mornings I’m sitting in a cafe enjoying a cappuccino or two while thinking and writing. Today is different however… it’s my first birthday in almost 40 years without Rosie.

Lots of special events are happening at the moment… Flynn’s 3rd birthday party yesterday, my birthday and family party today, tomorrow I’m off to Mount Beauty to spend a few days with Rosie’s legendary Uncle Ron who turned 95 this week, then in 3 weeks I’m off to Perth for the arrival of Rohan and Sheralee’s first baby (due mid Sept) and grandchild number 2 for me!

Each of these occasions brings an understandable mix of emotions however… the joy and excitement of life in all its variety and the grief and sadness of knowing that Rosie is no longer here to share these celebrations.

There’s a powerful life lesson in this that has only just dawned on me this morning…

Rather than allowing sadness and grief to cancel out joy and excitement the key is to allow both sets of emotions to be fully present at the same time. Allowing both the dark and bright threads of life to be woven together in their fullness creates a far richer, more beautiful tapestry than weaving it with the grey threads of negated or suppressed emotions.

I wasn’t expecting to receive any birthday gifts until later in the day… but I think I’ve just glimpsed one that is more valuable than any gift I could have asked for.

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Comments on: "My Birthday Gift" (4)

  1. Rob & Janice. said:

    Many happy returns Ian. Hope you enjoy your day with the family.

  2. A very powerful message for all of us to hold in our hearts. It is so typical of you that on your birthday you have given all of us a gift – a positive message on how to live well.

  3. You continue to amaze me with your wisdom and understanding of life and it riches Mr Ian James….

    I am thankful I stand among those that can call you friend.

  4. Happy Birthday Ian. Enjoy all the celebrations.
    Thank you for sharing from the heart, your thoughts are a blessing.
    Love to you and the family
    Heather

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